As V-day approaches, more and more people are feeling the crashing waves of loneliness, the invisible shackles of single-hood, the howling winds of despair.

I can't deny I feel this way now and then.

And I thought of why little boys and girls find each other so icky, but as they age, these boys and girls turn into men and women, both searching, craving for their other halves.

This search may be for "love", to find someone with whom life takes on a greater meaning.

And this makes people in love seem weak. After all, for someone independent and wholesome, why would we need someone else to make us feel complete?

People are thus ashamed to acknowledge that they need love, they need a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a soulmate.

And it suddenly dawn on me that it's not a sign of weakness. It's just survival instinct.

In the world of little boys and girls:

Friends = People who truly like us
Problems = Non-existent, hardly harmful to well-being

Friends > Problems to whine to friends about

=> Who needs boyfriends or girlfriends?

In the world of big boys and girls:

Friends = People who like us and people who pretend to like us
Problems = Come by the shitload, pretty much harmful to well-being

Friends < Problems to whine to friends about

=> We realise people can't be there for us all the time. They have their own problems. And we have ours.

We start longing for someone. Someone who is there all the time. Someone who cares. Someone who wipes away your tears and tell you everything is going to be okay.

People in love are not weak. Neither are people looking and longing for love.

They are just searching for someone.

Someone who not just look, but also see.
Someone who not just eat but also taste.
Someone who not just sniff but also smell.
Someone who not just listen but also hear.
Someone who not just touch but also feel.
Someone who not just live but also love.

But the thing is ,
that someone doesn't have to be a lover.

Friends can do it too.

And I can do that for you. (:

Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.